Emma + Trey

Emma and treyI've been debating (with myself, which is lame and rather lonely sounding huh?) how personal to make this article. It can be scary to open up about personal things. Especially on the internet. In general I am sort of a private person. I'm way more likely to tell a (dumb) joke than I am to share a personal story. I get nervous. I feel embarrassed. 

But.True loveEmma chapman and treyThis is my boyfriend/best friend/partner, Trey. We've known each other for, like, ever. It feels. We met in college because we had the same major (Philosophy). We were friends. We dated. We broke up. And then there were a few years of half-hearted friendship. I guess you could say. (I'm keeping this part brief because it's sort of downer.)

And then, sort of out of the blue, we reconnected last Thanksgiving while he was in town visiting his family. I was NOT planning on dating anyone at the time. I had recently been dumped and I like to take a few months after getting dumped to work on personal goals and heal. But then Trey kept calling. And I kept answering. And then we were friends again. And then we were more than friends. And then he moved to my city (yes, it's MINE!). And here we are. Life is a funny fickle thing.Trey and emmaI still have moments every now and again when I'm a little surprised/amazed that we're together. Like when I typed our names into the title of this article it felt strange to see them together. I didn't see this coming. Actually, all the best things that have happened in my life I never really saw coming. Trey is one of those best things. Thank you for letting me share something, well, really big and personal in my life. xo. Emma

Emma's wearing: dress/TopShop, shoes c/o Lotta and glasses c/o BonLook. Trey's wearing: boots, pants, cardigan/TopMan, shirt/thrifted and glasses c/o BonLook.

  • “life is a funny fickle thing” — please make a diy print with that on it. i may need to stick it on my wall. i love seeing you open up about this on a beautiful mess, emma. it’s so nice to see this side of you. and the two of you? too cute for words.

  • Emma, that’s so sweet. Thanks for sharing– don’t feel embarrassed. πŸ™‚

  • Aw, I love this! I’m young and this definitely gives me hope. I’m learning every day to stop looking for these good things to come along but just let them.

    xo

  • EMMA!!! YAY!!! This is so awesome πŸ™‚ You totally deserve an awesome guy πŸ™‚ Congrats on having him! And it’s good to hear that you’re happy. Thanks for sharing with us…I love reading posts like these!
    XO
    Rory
    http://www.wearaboutsblog.com/

  • Lovely to see you so happy Emma, I have a very similar story with my boyfriend. we’ve been together 3 years (almost) but I still look at him sometimes and think ‘are we really together? Haven’t you been my friend since I was 16?’

    You two are a very cute couple πŸ™‚ and you look gorgeous in that dress xx

  • i’m so glad you opened up and shared! things that are beautiful and happen naturally should be the easiest to share! you guys make a picture perfect couple!! i’m so happy you found happiness in someone!

  • thanks for sharing, especially the happy ending after the downer part, that gives a girl hope πŸ™‚ And indeed, don’t be embarassed!

  • Hi Emma

    i feel with you if you don’t want to open up about personal stuff on the internet. I still keep my boyfriend (of 5 years and counting!) a secret on my facebook page. (On his request I put in that we have a relationship but only I can see it.)

    But articles like this make me really happy.

    All the best for you!

  • Thanks you for being so open, def. can be scary, but I am glad you all experienced this kind of sweet surprise πŸ™‚

  • That is so wonderful Emma! You go wonderfully together! Thank you for being such an honest girl. It makes me feel more comfortable in my own skin.

  • thank you for sharing emma! i have seen little snippets here and there of you and your boy, but have always wanted to fully see you together. i love this post. i know its hard for you to share more personal things, so i think its awesome you let yourself! it is so funny how this world works. James and I had a similar story to yours… love. xo

  • That is not embarrassing at all! My husband and I were college sweethearts–he was a philosophy major too and I thought he was so romantic and intellectual πŸ™‚ (Of course, then he went on to get his PhD, and I just started thinking of what kind of job he’d ever get, haha). He looks very kind–congrats!

  • That is so sweet! Thank you for sharing something personal. I haven’t bridged that gap online yet, so I can appreciate the apprehension.

  • That is a very sweet story! I’m glad you’ve found happiness and have the courage to be open about your personal life. Good luck to both of you! πŸ™‚

  • Gosh, I so understand the conflict of not being comfortable sharing things online… I shut my personal blog down a few months ago and started a purely crafty one (www.meandelna.blogspot.com) because it was all starting to feel a bit to vulnerable to me. I struggle with this because I DO want to be vulnerable and open to comments and [hopefully] becoming a better person and all that… but the internet’s this funny thing that can be interpretted so differently, depending on who’s reading it, and sometimes those reading it are people you really wouldn’t care to know ANYWAY. Ok… I’ve rambled enough. πŸ™‚ Long story short- share what you feel comfortable with and if you start feeling too “out there”, take a step back for a while.

  • Aw, I used to be scared of sharing personal stuff on the internet (“What if it all goes wrong and I look like a naive idiot?!”) but the more I shared, the less scary it seemed. I loved reading this post – and, ooh, your man is cute!

  • Awww, I’m so happy for you Emma, you guys look so perfect together! You’re such a pretty couple xo

  • so happy for you! πŸ™‚
    I’m glad you share it. It’s so good when we can read a good love story. It gives hope. I guess the best things and the happy ones are the ones that we’re not waiting for them to happen.

    and by the way you really look even more beautiful beside him πŸ™‚
    I hope you’ve a happy ending πŸ˜€
    *

  • This is such a wonderful post – so well written, it just felt really authentic – if that makes sense? I got together with my boyfriend after I got dumped too, and I wasn’t planning on being with anyone else either, but like you said, all the best things happen when you dont expect them to. Love it πŸ™‚

  • This post is just so very sweet, so pure, and so honest. You and Elise should add this post to the list of your favorites <3

  • Very sweet. I like hearing stories of how people met. And it’s even better if it’s relatable and not saccharine. Thank you.

  • I love this! That’s when you know when you found something really special, when it keeps coming at you at a time you weren’t planning or in my case really didn’t want to have happen at all. πŸ™‚

  • You look so good together! And your story is quite romantic actually! Nothing to be embarrassed of.
    It reminds me my love story too, we met 5 years ago, we were kind of friends, lost each others tracks for about 2 years, then we met again, gone out for a while, became a couple for 2 years, broke up for a month, got back together and still going… hopefully for more years to come! πŸ˜‰
    It’s nice to be more personal from time to time.
    I wish you all the best and lots of love in your life!

  • You guys are adorable! Thank you for sharing this piece of your life. πŸ™‚

  • Awww. So sweet… I was in the same situation with a friend of mine. Now we’re like strangers, but your post gave hope. Maybe in the future we could be together, Thanks for sharing that. I love your blog, by the way <3

  • Aw, you guys are a cute couple. It’s funny how love shows up when you least expect it. I met my husband right before I left for college!

  • I love this! thanks so much for sharing this part of your life, you two are beautiful together πŸ™‚

  • Oh Emma. I am so happy for you! When Brian and I started dating, I had absolutely sworn off relationships. He was my friend. I adored him, but I fell head over heals for a friend from high school. And I am so, so, so glad I did.

  • He is a doll. You two look so cute together. I know how it is to keep certain things private. It’s like its your own secret that you get to treasure but since you have shared this with us, I have to take this opportunity to tease you a bit. I will go old school, more like elementary school , and just say ” Trey & Emma sittin in a tree, k i s s i n g. You know how the rest of the song goes. We will just gave to see how this progresses. You guys are super cute.

    Vintagehoneybee.blogspot.com

  • First, I debate with myself *all* the time. So not lame or lonely. And I ‘get’ the not being sure how personal you want to be online. Second, I love Trey’s shoes. Love. And third, you need to put your “Life is a funny fickle thing.” on a tshirt, a print, somewhere to shout out and remind us all. Love those words together. Thanks for your sweet share. :>

  • Life is so funny that way! My husband and I were next door neighbors when we were young, then dated, then broke up, lost touch and then seven years later started dating again and got married! These days I seem to think timing is everything. Thank you for sharing. You two are so cute!

  • so very sweet. i have a similar story – the short of it – married my hs sweetheart after reconnecting 10 years later. love is a beautiful and strange thing, eh? thanks for sharing!

  • This is so sweet. My boyfriend and I have been dating since high school and sometimes I still think it’s so odd to be together for so long with your best friend. But you two look sweet together!

    xo
    Diana
    http://unusuallylovely.com

  • This is nice! We hear so much about your professional lives on the blog. It’s nice to learn something sweet about your personal life too. Best of luck to you both xo

  • Such a beautiful story! You guys adorable together and I’m so glad you’re so happy πŸ™‚
    <3
    katsfashionfix.blogspot.com

  • such a sweet story! and the best reminder – some of the best things in life come to us when we least expect them to.

    thank you for your bravery!

    xxo

  • We should never ever feel bad to show love to the world. Love is the most personal and worth showing thing in the world.

    lx Hugs

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  • so sweet! you look so cute together! and i understand your shyness, haha, but im glad you told us about this wonderful story ^^

  • That is just oh so sweet. I’m glad you decided to share this lovely part of your life. It’s always good to share happiness…

  • oh emma that is so great. i’m happy for u!
    it’s like u can’t escape life πŸ™‚

    xx

    asteria-sparkle.blogspot.com

  • I am a reader, not a commenter, however, i felt the need to tell you how this post made me smile. πŸ™‚

  • That is no where near embarrasing! Its a sweet story and I absolutely LOVE your blog!:)

  • You two are so adorable together! So happy for both of you. I’m not sure if you’ve heard this before, but he looks a lot like Ryan Gosling πŸ˜‰

  • I’m the same as you, very private, so I understand what you feel. I still only talk about my boyfriend via comments on my blog, but never on the posts. It feels like giving way too much away and I love feeling like he’s mine and mine alone (in a non-creepy sort of way). So congrats for doing this. πŸ™‚

  • This made my heart melt! The love of my life and I dated for years – broke up – and are now (distant) friends – and although we are both in relationships and are now happy in our (separate lives), I always hold out hope that one day, our story will have an ending like yours.

    Sounds absolutely terrible to say, but hey, romance is romance – and this guy was my soulmate! Guaranteed.

  • Yeah! Love and friendship are awesome. My fella and I have a similar back-and-forth story. Now he’s moved to the other side of the country and I have to stay back to finish school. I miss him but I’m also so happy to be in a relationship where all I can think of is how happy I am that he’s following his dreams and I mine. Plus, distance makes the heart grow fonder, right? haha

  • This is beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing. I’m glad it worked out the way it did for you two (and dream for something like that for myself one day, with the right person).

  • You guys are too cute!
    The best things in life always happen when you least expect it! I had made a huge move (from Belgium to California) when I was 18 and after a few months I was so fed up and homesick that I was planning on moving back, when suddenly I met “a guy”, got married 3 weeks later, got pregnant 3 months after that and now here we are about to celebrate our 9th anniversary with our 2 kiddo’s! Just goes to show that you never know what can happen πŸ™‚

    xo
    Alex

  • I admire your bravery for clicking “Publish” on this post.
    It shows you feel comfortable that this time it will last, which is wonderful πŸ™‚
    Lets hope his good fashion sense lasts too and you’re sorted!

    Katie xx

  • I absolutely adore the two of you together. Not to mention that I absolutely adore these photos. It’s always comforting to see people “fit” and well, the two of you definitely seem to. I’m happy happy for you!

    Thanks so much for sharing this side of you…and I super love your jokes so keep ’em coming!

  • What a sweet and wonderful post. Thank you for sharing with all of us! I will be wishing you and Trey all the best together.

  • your story is so beautiful and your pictures are so cute ! life is really funny sometimes. i wish you all the best together, you’re a beautiful couple.

  • Sometimes the best things in life are the things you do not expect to happen. I often feel this way about my boyfriend too. You look beautiful together and I love your outfit. It’s nice of you to open up and share something personal with everyone. I hope the future brings you much love and happiness together. xx

    Endometriosis my life with you

  • So i don’t ever comment, but just wanted to say that’s kind of like how me and my hubby got together. and despite it all, and there’s been a whole helluva lot of “all” we are still together, happy and whole.
    thanks for sharing. elsie’s little hints were starting to get to me!
    much xoxo to you both.
    Ally

  • I think this post had just the right about of *personal*. It’s comforting to know you guys have kinda been through it all… I’m in the midst of figuring out to do with my boyfriend/best friend/ partner who lives across the state. Neither of us are cut out for long distance, but it’s hard to let go. oy.

  • I definitely struggle with how “personal” to get on my blog. I have yet to share too much about the others in my life. I feel the same as you. But your sharing has inspired me! Plus, you guys make an adorable match!

  • This is awesome! I love it when bloggers aren’t afraid to get a little personal, and I never understand the embarrassment that follows. Your readers support you in every way!

  • Love this!!! I’m so happy for you, Emma. It’s true, the best things in life really do happen when we least expect them. πŸ™‚ You two are super cute together, and of course, very stylish!

  • What a sweet post! Apart from the constant wave of “creativity” that you impart to your readers, “happiness” is equally contagious and inspiring. So thank you for sharing πŸ™‚

  • I have a story very similar to yours and am so very happy that you shared! A connection that can persist through distance and heartache is a very magnificent one indeed.

  • Emma,
    I often think of that. . . whether or not to share stories from my boyfriend and I on the internet because you are right.. It is personal and sometimes, I get all red in the face when family & friend talk about my blog… But it’s my blog and I feel I should share whatever I feel like, both good & bad.

    You two are adorable. So glad you reconnected.

  • I second that!!! my husband was one of the best things coming and not knowing it at that time! We were friends with benefits before lovers!!! Sometimes…you just have to go with it to realize whats meant to be!!! LOVE your blog!!!!

    Follow each other???

  • Emma, thanks for sharing this beautiful part of your life. I usually don’t write comments, although I read ABM everyday. Since you posted something so personal, I think it’s nice to comment. You are a lovely couple! Wish all the best for you two

  • Emma, thanks for sharing this story. Yeah, life has its way of surprising us, doesn’t it? I met my Kiwi husband on a student exchange in Italy of all places – I wasn’t really looking for a relationship, but we met and fell in love and then I found myself packing my bags and moving to New Zealand to be with him. Whenever I tell people the story of how we met I have to pinch myself because it was such a coincidence. But I love that about life. surprises.

  • i love it when you share πŸ˜‰ your voice on this blog is very refreshing and real. love that too. I love that you and Elsie can share so much and still stay true to each other – reminds me of my relationship with my sister. xoxo.

  • I am such a long time lurker but I melted when I saw this post!
    I have known my best friend/boyfriend forever too! We met eight years ago (I was 17) which means I knew him before I knew any of my current friends…And I was a philosophy major πŸ™‚
    We went crush>friends>estranged>dating>tough spot>dating and I am so happy to go through all of that because now I have an amazing relationship with someone who knows who I was then and who I am now. I feel like we have such a great toolbox to deal with issues because we didn’t just end up here.

  • I’m with you on personal things – I’m even struggling with the thought of having a bunch of friends and family at my wedding, which I can’t help but see as a very private moment! But for the record you guys make an adorable couple & I wish you all the happiness in the world πŸ™‚

  • Thank you for sharing this! Some of the best relationships come out of friendships first. My husband I met and became fast friends for years and were in other relationships until we were both single at the same time and started dating. Now we have been married for almost 3 years! Cheers to you two! Holly

  • I am a blog lurker, but have bene following ABM for a years and I have to say I couldnt not comment on this one. You guys look so happy!

  • Sweet, sweet post! My husband and I have been married for 10 years, but we started out as just friends way, way back when, then we were more than friends, then we both were in other relationships and I moved away and we lost touch for many, many years, then I moved back to town and we were both in the right place at the right time and we got married! And the rest is wonderful history… πŸ™‚

  • i love the little personal glimpses that you and elsie give! i don’t know you but he totally looks like hes meant to be your other half. i’m happy for you. both of you! πŸ™‚

  • oh and i should add he has great style…..it’s so dreamy to meet guys that can dress themselves in more than shorts and a polo πŸ˜‰

  • thank you for sharing this personal part of your life. its very sweet and endearing!! you guys are so cute together!!

  • i remember seeing a picture of Trey in your IG feed and thought, “hey, that’s trey! i sat at the same table with him at the wedding. he is one cool dude.” & also remembered thinking how he might have been crushing on you during that time when i asked him how he knew you. πŸ™‚ you guys look great together.

  • I’m in the middle of a confusing love situation at the moment. Reading this helps me realize that there’s always potential for more – just because lives move in different directions doesn’t mean they won’t come back together someday. Thanks for sharing.

  • Not embarrassing… just life πŸ™‚ Thanks for sharing Emma, this was a very sweet post.

    xoxo Sarah
    theantiquepearl.blogspot.com

  • Emma, that’s wonderful! πŸ™‚ God’s Blessing’s to you both!

  • Dear Emma,

    This is so lovely!
    I feel like you, I’m a very private person and I don’t like to share my personal life and events into social medias.
    But this post make me feel very happy!
    Congratulations and thanks for sharing this!
    You really make a beautiful couple!
    =)
    All the best!
    Luv

  • Aww, y’all make such a cute couple! Thanks for sharing this with us, Emma! Wish you guys the best! πŸ™‚

  • This post gives me hope. Things recently ended with my best friend, the man I thought I’d end up with. We’re still kind of talking “as friends” but it’s not the same. The only reason we aren’t together is due to distance and trying to figure out what we want to do in our lives. I hope so badly that we reconnect again.

    I’m so glad you two were able to reconnect. xo

  • thanks for sharing Emma! You are such a cute couple. Reading this post reminds me of my own story – i know him since we were 10 years old. After school he left our town and just came to visit his family.”And then there were a few years of half-hearted friendship.” By a lucky chance we met again in 2008, remained in contact….felt in love. He moved back and last year we got married. Sometimes i ask myself if this is really true and i’m so overwhelmed. All the best to you and your man. You are so lovely and inspiring!

  • You two are adorable and your story is, too! This is the kind of stuff I tell friends when they feel like they’ll stay alone forever… I wasnt expecting my love neither and its been three years now. πŸ™‚

  • lovely emma, thank you so much for such a personal and lovely entry! youΒ΄re looking beautiful together and i believe itΒ΄s not easy to be so personal on the internet to completly strangers. so thank you soooo much!!!

    lovely greetings from germany πŸ™‚

  • this post is just what i needed after a good/bad night with a friend of mine yesterday…
    you make a gorgeous couple!
    xo, cheyenne

  • It’s always hard to share such personal things, but sometimes it can be very freeing. I hope it’s that way for you with this. I wish you both the very best.

  • This is exactly what I need. My boyfriend of 7,5 years broke up with me last Monday. This gives me a small piece of hope, that things can work out in the end

  • Life is so funny huh? I feel like a lot of great relationships have happened the same way, unintentional, naturally but great. Mine was the same, a man a met at 18 in a bar in Australia and after countless countries, years of not speaking, ended up marrying in Denmark in May.

  • Love the pictures and the admiration and respect you share! I love you too my sweet friend:)

  • Yay, love the photos! James and I think you guys are such an awesome couple.I only wish we could get to see you both more. Speaking of hanging out…when you coming to STL next? You need to meet Hunter πŸ™‚

  • Congrats! My boyfriend and I were the same thing… πŸ™‚ I never regretted it! πŸ™‚

  • Congrats!! It is funny how things work out sometimes!! Good Luck & Best of wishes to both of you!! You guys are so adorable together!!!

  • This is so sweet! I think it’s just personal enough to get to know a bit of you, without really getting into ‘you’, you know?

    Great piece. β™₯

  • Umm let me just say that whoever dumped you is a complete and total idiot!!! You’re beautiful and charming and most importantly: you have a fantastic sense of humor! Glad you have someone now who really appreciates all of those things. πŸ™‚

  • Thank you for sharing! Life has a round about way of doing things most of the time. Glad you all found your way back to each other. πŸ˜€

  • thanks for sharing! My 5 year relationship just ended in June…we were engaged and 4 months away from the big day….I was (and still am in MANY ways) devastated…I am trying to find hope and faith in my life again, and I am slowly finding it, in little places….I would be lying, if this didn’t give me tiny hope that he and I will find each other again someday, but you are an inspiration, in that between your relationships with Trey, you were able to find a life again…so thank you for sharing:) And I agree with previous posts, you two are lovely:)

  • Strangely, my boyfriend and I have a very similar story. I guess there really is nothing new under the sun…

    Congrats on finding destined love,

    Keyanna

  • IΒ΄ve been wondering what your boyfriend looks like for month ^^. Since Elsie is sharing all those beautiful pictures of her and her husband I got so curious what your partner looks like and you make a wonderful couple!

  • Emma,

    I love the man my brother has turned out to be, and you have made all the difference. (Not that I didn’t love him before, of course…. but I like him better now) I’m so glad you two have found each other!

  • it’s great to get to know you a bit more in this direction as well. Thx for sharing and thx for trusting your readers with something so personal. I really like hearing things like this. Great and I am happy for you!

  • My partner and I also dated when we were at university, then broke up, followed by a few years in which we were ‘friends’. Then one day I was single and not really looking, when he popped up again…I think our friends thought maybe we were being overly romantic thinking it could work out. Well, this is five years later, and we have the most beautiful little boy.

    I loved your story! xx M

  • The same thing happened to me. I just got out of a relationship not looking for another relationship of any sort, and then just a few days later, my lovely boyfriend Quinn popped up out of the blue and into my life. We’ve been together for almost 2 years and he’s the best surprise I’ve ever gotten. Life’s funny like that.

    Also, you might want to note that when I first started reading this blog post “It Had To Be You” by Frank Sinatra came on my iTunes…. Coincidence? I think not πŸ™‚

  • Y’all are the sweetest thing! I particularly love the last photo. My husband and I have a similar story… break-ups, trying to be friends, and then… well πŸ™‚ I am so glad you were surprised to be back with your love– something about that makes it just so much better, that you didn’t plan it. That it just happened. It just keeps getting sweeter.

  • I a new reader of this excellent blog and I just want to say that that was really beautifully written! And you’re a lovely looking couple!

  • Aaawww that is such a lovely post!! I wish you all the happiness!!

  • You both look so fantastic together.
    It can be really hard to open yourself up to others about your personal life.
    We’re glad you allowed us more insight into your current blessed happenings!
    I love that you both made a long-distance relationship work out too!
    I wish you both the best!
    Alyssa

  • so nice to read. and i agree with the comment about making a print about “life is a funny fickle thing”…:)

  • I love this, i just stumbled onto your blog and this post tugged at my heart a little. my ‘fiance’ and I meet when i was 16, he was 20, we worked together, ‘dated’ then he stopped calling, how rude!..a couple years later we reconnected thanks to ‘myspace’ but we were both in relationships at the time. then in June 2007 he found me again and we had our first “date” on June 15th. we spent everyday after that together and in August i found out i was preggo! now here we are 5 years later, living happily with our 4 year old daughter and getting ready to FINALLY say ‘I do!’ in October! i too find it strange, even to this day, that he and i ended up together. at the tender age of 16 i was SO in love with him, and to see how he adores me now and how life can be “a funny fickle thing” proves that true love is out there, you just gotta know NOT to go looking for it πŸ™‚ xoxo