I’m trying to figure out at what age things really started to shift for me, confidence-wise. My earliest memory of feeling powerful enough to change my own life was in my early 20s. I had a part-time job at Hobby Lobby and a wedding photography business that I wasn’t cut out for. I wasn’t making much money and I wasn’t enjoying my work. Although both those experiences are super normal for someone in their early 20s, I was searching for a way to create a better career for myself.
I did scrapbooking for a hobby and I started to see that the same people in the scrapbooking magazines I bought also had books and product lines you could buy at the craft stores. I remember telling my friend that I thought I could do that for a job. It was pretty clear from her face that she thought I was a bit crazy. To be fair, it was a crazy plan. But two years later, I was the one who had the book in the stores and the product line in the aisles. When I would go into Hobby Lobby, all my previous coworkers would want to ask me questions about the book and the magazines I was in.
It was such a big life change for me between the ages of 22 and 24. I didn’t finish college and I didn’t have any connections. So how did I do it? I’ll share it with you today!
Setting goals is scary. A lot of us don’t set the really big goals because we’re afraid of failing. The “secret” to my first big career moment was that I wasn’t afraid to fail. I knew I could do it and I was fine with trying for as long as it took to get where I wanted to be.
Here are a few tips for making and achieving big goals:
-Write your goals on paper and say them out loud.
These actions give life to your dreams and goals. It’s weird and scary the first time you say it out loud, but it gets easier (and more real) each time you do!
Choose goals that you know deep within yourself that you can achieve.
-Realize that failure is not that bad.
There are many goals I’ve made where I didn’t complete them or changed my plans along the way as I found something bigger or more meaningful. Failure is not always a bad thing. A lot of our business ventures have technically been failures, but each time we learned valuable lessons that we needed to move forward.
Additionally, even if you complete a goal to 50%, you are 50% farther along than you would have been without making that goal in the first place!
-Play the long game.
So many people quit the first time they hit a speed bump or get discouraged. The most important part of achieving big goals is that you are prepared to play the long game. Don’t be one of those people who misses a workout on Jan. 4 and then quits that whole plan! It’s normal to have bad days and setbacks, but keep the big picture in mind and motivate yourself to keep going with smaller rewards and goals along the way!
One of the most important things I want to teach my girls is how to make and achieve big goals. I want to help them to find something that seems “too big,” make the goal, do the work day in and day out and then celebrate their successes with them. It’s such an important confidence lesson in life that I want them to learn.
Do you have big dreams that you’re afraid to say out load? My challenge to you today is to write them down and say them. That’s the first step! You can do it! xx – Elsie