If the frosting appears grainy, check this post for a couple tips to fix this. I used a Starbucks Via Instant packet for the instant coffee here, but other brands/types will work and this may mean the 3.3 grams listed may vary slightly. If you wish to make plain vanilla sweetened condensed milk buttercream frosting, simply omit the hot water and coffee. You could add another 1/2 to 1 teaspoon of another extract to flavor it differently or try mixing in some vanilla beans to enhance the vanilla flavor. Lots of options!